After a while, you start to notice patterns. Some dates feel easy from the very first time we lock eyes, or even from the very first message they send. Others… not so much. In fact, some have felt slightly off before they’ve even started.
Through my work as an elite ebony London escort, I spend time with men from very different backgrounds. Over time, it becomes obvious that the best dates usually come down to how a man approaches things from the start.
So, if you wish to make the most of your time with a classy woman like me, these are the qualities I actually respond to… the things that make an evening feel comfortable, respectful, and worth repeating.
Contents:
- Be Confident… and Don’t Have an Ego
- Respect for My Boundaries and Time
- Clear Communication and Proper Booking
- Understanding Screening Is Part of a High-Class Experience
- Manners and Etiquette Matter
- Discretion and Emotional Intelligence
- Why I Prefer Longer, Unrushed Dates
- Last Message from Me
Be Confident… and Don’t Have an Ego
The men I enjoy spending time with most are the ones with confidence… but only those who are confident in a quiet way. So, what do I mean by that exactly? Well, if there’s one thing that is enough to put me off a man (no matter how respectful or handsome he is), it’s when he tries to impress me with long stories, titles, or how much they spend.
A real gentleman is comfortable enough in himself that he doesn’t need to prove anything. Now, I can usually spot this fairly early in the date. It’s in how a man introduces himself, how he communicates when booking, and how relaxed he is once we meet. He listens as much as he speaks, doesn’t rush the conversation, and doesn’t feel the need to control the room. That kind of confidence makes everything feel so much easier for women like me.
Many of the men I connect with are successful and ambitious, but you wouldn’t necessarily know it from the way they speak. They’re calm, self-assured, and present, which is far more attractive than anyone trying too hard to stand out. Keep this in mind when arranging a date with me…
Respect for My Boundaries and Time
Respect, for me, is shown through actions rather than words. A gentleman who understands boundaries doesn’t test them, push them, or wait until we meet to see what he can get away with. He accepts what’s been agreed and allows the date to unfold within that.
This applies very directly to time. I don’t offer free extra time, and I expect bookings to be honoured as arranged. If you’re enjoying yourself and would like to extend, that can always be discussed politely and handled properly. It should never, ever be assumed.
Respect also means arriving prepared. Being sober, clean, and well-presented matters to me, and showering before our date is non-negotiable. I’m a calm and reasonable person, and very easygoing by nature, but I will not tolerate rude, aggressive, or dismissive behaviour. When boundaries are respected, only then will the date be enjoyable for the both of us.
Clear Communication and Proper Booking
The way a man communicates before we meet tells me a lot. I appreciate introductions that are clear and considered, with as much detail as you can give me. This includes your name, your age, when you’d like to meet, and what kind of date you have in mind. I like to get to know someone before meeting them, as anyone should! This is a date after all.
I find that vague or rushed messages often lead to misunderstandings, which is why I prefer clarity from the start. When we both know what to expect, the date itself feels far more comfortable and natural.
Planning ahead also makes a difference. While I can sometimes accommodate same-day bookings if I’m available, I always appreciate reasonable notice. A gentleman who plans properly, rather than assuming everything can be arranged at the last minute, usually enjoys a smoother and more relaxed experience.
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Understanding Screening Is Part of a High-Class Experience
Cient screening is something I expect to be understood from the start. It isn’t personal, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you’re untrustworthy… It’s simply part of how I work and how I protect my safety and discretion.
I may ask for references, a LinkedIn profile, a business website, or photo ID without your address. That’s normal for me, and it’s handled quietly and professionally. Men who are comfortable with this process tend to be the ones who value privacy themselves and understand the importance of discretion on both sides.
In my experience, screening usually tells me a lot. A gentleman who approaches it calmly and without hesitation shows maturity and respect. If anything, it sets the tone for the date long before we meet…
For more details regarding this process, read my ‘Etiquette’ page.
Manners and Etiquette Matter
Manners are something I notice immediately, and they make a bigger difference than most clients realise.
Yes, I appreciate men who are well-groomed and dressed appropriately for the setting… but then again, what woman doesn’t? For me, etiquette shows itself in how a man handles the practical moments of a date, not just the obvious pleasantries. How a man greets me, whether he’s on time, and how he carries himself tell me a lot before we even sit down.
I also have a keen eye for the small things that matter, like being polite with staff, knowing how to behave in a five-star hotel or restaurant, and speaking respectfully throughout the date. These details create a sense of ease and mutual respect.
Good etiquette also means being present. You’ve booked me for my time… and so I should be the focus of your evening. Putting phones away, taking the time to get to know me, and allowing the evening to play out without distraction make a real difference. When a man creates that sense of ease from the start, the date feels far more natural and enjoyable for me.
Discretion and Emotional Intelligence
Discretion matters to me, and I tend to notice very quickly whether a man understands that instinctively or not. I value privacy, and I expect what happens between us to stay exactly there – without commentary, sharing, or unnecessary attention.
Emotional awareness plays a big part in this. Being able to read the moment, pick up on subtle cues, and adjust naturally makes a huge difference to how a date feels. The men I enjoy spending time with most don’t force conversation, rush intimacy, or push the tone in a direction that doesn’t feel right.
When a man is emotionally present and attentive to a woman’s feelings, the date feels easy.
Why I Prefer Longer, Unrushed Dates
Although I have minimum booking lengths, I genuinely prefer dates that allow us time to settle in properly. Two hours or more makes a noticeable difference. It gives space for conversation, for comfort to build, and for the date to feel relaxed rather than structured around the clock.
With longer bookings, there’s no sense of rushing through moments or watching the time. We can enjoy each other’s company at a natural pace, whether that means talking, sharing a meal, or simply enjoying each other’s company in private.
In my experience, gentlemen who understand the value of time tend to enjoy the date far more. Besides, wouldn’t you want everything to feel more genuine? I know I would.
Last Message from Me
For me, being a high-class gentleman isn’t about being perfect. The men I enjoy spending time with most are those who arrive prepared, communicate clearly, respect boundaries, and understand that behaviour matters just as much as setting.
When those things are in place, the experience becomes much more enjoyable for both of us.
If you’d like to arrange a date with me, you can do so via my booking form. I look forward to meeting you.
Zara x